Feelings are not important than facts

I was on Twitter enjoying the verbal battle between random users, the topic of which doesn't matter for the context as of now. Heck, I don't even remember why there was an argument. In the process of arguments, someone put forth this statement. “Feelings are important than facts.” As I was nonchalantly reading through the conversation, my mind refused to move away from the above statement. I strongly sensed there was something wrong in this argument.And I proceeded to write it down.

I believe that feelings are those kinds of emotions where your mind refuses to move on. The mind is stuck in some past events, and people decorate it with a name called feeling. Let me give an example: There is a boy and a girl and they are in a relationship. Something fortunate/unfortunate happens and they seperate. Now comes feelings. Both of them think about the good old days, the places they visited, the promises they made, the gifts they gave and took and all. Their minds refuse to move away from the fact that this thing called relationship is over. That's when they are stuck in feelings.

This is just an example by the way. There are some people I know who are stuck on their good old childhood days, some on their parents and/or grandparents, some are stuck on their feelings for a particular place where they grew up etc.

I agree that it's necessary to have feelings. Because you know, it's a human thing and we are all human. But it shouldn't be a prolonged one. Feelings should be like a flowing river, it should just flow. For if it stays, it stinks and becomes a home for bacteria to grow. You cannot and should not allow your mind to be stuck in a particular period of time which is long gone or that which cannot be brought back now.

In the above hypothetical example, if both of them chooses to accept the fact that there is no going back in time and it is what it is, they would harm their mind less. If the mind is hampered, it will impact the body too. Remember, “A healthy body means a healthy mind.”

If we choose to look at what happened in the past as facts instead of calling it as feelings only to be glued to it, it would be a lot of help to our own mind and self. Our mind is like a muscle you know, for if you stretch more, it grows more.

What I want to convey is that we should move on from things of the past as soon as possible. Here's a quote from Naval Ravikanth who is a celebrated entrepreneur and an investor. The quote goes like this “I just don’t believe in anything from my past. Anything. No memories. No regrets. No people. No trips. Nothing. A lot of our unhappiness comes from comparing things from the past to the present.” But I won't expect you to forget all the things of the past. I expect you to accept those things gracefully. Don't find yourself to be in the past, find yourself away from them, but still be aware of them.

We humans are given this physical body and a mind to make our lives. What if our physical body stops to mature at a particular point of time. Remember, even if the body stops growing visibly, it will still mature through the age. The same goes with the mind. But if the mind is always filled with the same old feelings, it will make our mind ill. When it comes to your past feelings, you should accept that you felt that way. But you should be detached from that. You cannot be stuck in the mud somewhere in between on the long path or your long walk called life.

Hare Krishna.