Who is your best friend for life? and why is it your wife?

A lot on friendships and a bit on relationships.

In the recent blog of mine, I wrote on relationships and family life that follows. At a certain point I mentioned that the only best friend you have for your life is your wife. Here is exactly what I wrote for reference:

“You gotta be sensible in the selection of your future. Your spouse is your best friend. And best friend is only 1.”

(To read the full blog, click here )

A friend of mine asked me, “How can this be? Can't my school or college friends be friends forever? Should it only be the wife that holds the position of best friend for entire life long enough?”

Answer 

Well, it can be and cannot be. But more often than not, it cannot. It can happen but rarely.

The reason is that you will accumulate a lot of friends from beginning to end of your life. You will make your friends at school, at your town, at your college, at your workplace, at your business etc.

A scenario for you.

Imagine yourself with your buddy. You have been friends since school, through college, at your workplace. Now, suddenly you or he gets a job opportunity or a transfer or any scenario with some good reason, either of you have to move out of the town. Will you or he consider taking a friend along? Of Course not. 

Now, come to reality. Let's talk about friendships.

"A friendship founded on business is better than a business founded on friendship."

John. D. Rockefeller 

Let me dissect it. Brother, you have to stick to something, some goal, some business, some area of your work. You cannot carry your friend along with you. You have to make friends on your way. No friend of yours can walk on your path all along. He has to find his life's piece too.

That's why John D Rockefeller says, that "A friendship founded on business is better than a business founded on friendship."

You have to walk your path, the like minded people will join you for the time being. And then, they have to choose their way and you choose yours. 

Do your work honestly, the people who are meant to be along with you will come to you. 

You can be a friend for a while, but not all the time. Tell me, where are your schoolmates, your college mates, your office buddies? All of us move along.

Yeah, they will be there for you with a phone call or a snap or a message away. But that's not what I meant. 

All friendships are as fragile as it can be. Very few of it can be strong but not for all the time. I am not demeaning any of the bonding or friendship here.. But as I always say, it is how it is. 

Now, let's talk a little bit about relationships.

The couples will always be and have to be along with each other. You don't live in your school, in college, in office, in your chamber all through your life. You live in your home. And who will be there in your home till your end?

That's why I said, 

Your best friend for life is your wife. 

                                  Or

At least she has to be there for long enough.

Once you are married, you are set for life with that person. Don't talk about divorces and all. To avoid all the noise on divorces, I wrote that blog before. Your companion will be and have to be with you for long.

For FAR TOO LONG.

Note

Don't think of this as a comparison between friendships and relationships. Your friendship is not necessarily a relationship. But your relationship is necessarily a friendship.

Hare Krishna